The Truth About Coaching: Revealing What, Why, and How
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Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device): [00:00:00] The truth about coaching revealing. What, why and how decoding the role of Christian parenting and family coaching. The term coaching is being used more frequently. These days leaving many wondering. Well, what even is coaching and is it something that I need. According to better up coaching is when an individual works with a trained professional in a process of self-discovery and self-awareness. Working together.
The coach helps the individual identify strengths and develop goals together. The coaching coachee practice and build the skills and behaviors required to make progress toward their goals. In the vast landscape of self-help and personal development, it's likely you'll run across a coaching offer or someone who expresses the positive ways in which coaching has changed their life. As a certified parenting and family coach myself. I feel called to [00:01:00] demystify this concept and shed some light on the power.
It can hold.
Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device)-1: Let's start by understanding the essence of coaching and specifically how a Christian approach can guide you towards self discovery and breakthrough. But let's also acknowledge the humbling fact that nothing worthwhile lacks risk. We will discuss who coaching is for who coaching is not for what you can expect.
Typical strategies, cost, and overall benefits.
Do you want to create peace in your home and be the best parent you possibly can be? Are you ready to feel confident and clear in your decisions? Do you wish you could navigate conflicts and challenges calmly and effectively? Well, there's a way to overcome the roadblocks that are standing between you and the family life you've prayed for so that you can create consistent routines, find fulfillment and balance, and thrive in your life and family.
Hi friends, I'm Katy Bordeaux, [00:02:00] host of Raising Faithful Families, founder of Covenant Collections Christian Parenting Company, and a certified parenting and family coach. In this podcast, I'll guide you on how to find balance and fulfillment without adding stress or sacrificing precious time, create peace in your home, become the parent God has called you to be, strengthen your connection with God and with your family, navigate life using biblical wisdom and Christian values.
And experience growth spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and practically as a parent and as an individual. I'm here to help your family be its best for each other so that you can be your best for the kingdom of God. It's time to create a home filled with love, faith, and true joy. Let's thrive together with God at the center every step of the way.
I pray this blesses you. Let's get started.
Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device)-1: Personal accountability in coaching is huge. A successful coach should not plan to push their own path or ideas [00:03:00] onto you. Great coaching is often 20% mechanics and 80% mindset. This type of focus, guides clients to moments of deep reflection that can lead to game-changing ideas and life altering perspectives.
Most of which come from within the client themselves with appropriate guidance and support. Coaching isn't about someone telling you what to do. It's more of a collaborative partnership where you as the client are the expert in your life. You should expect to be guided and empowered to unlock your potential and see possibilities.
You may not have considered before. Imagine your coach as a guide pointing you towards your goals and helping you attain the vision that you desire for your life. While we bring expertise to the table, the emphasis is on guiding you and illuminating your path forward. Not dictating your choices. Coaching involves significant personal risk, personal [00:04:00] accountability, as it requires you to take action toward your goals. This also requires you to be honest with yourself and your coach throughout the process, your coach can empower and inspire you. But they cannot do the work for you. A successful coaching relationship relies upon the client's understanding. That they are ultimately responsible for their own choices and outcomes. A willingness to take accountability for that intentional path towards their ideal life is such an important piece of the puzzle. Next we have coaching versus therapy. It's so important to distinguish coaching from therapy early on a coach is primarily focused on your present and your future.
They don't delve extensively into your past, through deep introspection and strategic questioning. A coach aims to unlock your true desires and open doors that you [00:05:00] may not have seen for yourself before. It's less about giving step-by-step advice or healing, the trauma of the past. And more about guiding you towards the best path forward from where you are now. To where you desire to be. A great coach can help you formulate a strategy personalized to your current challenges and your ideal outcomes. Coaching often gets entangled with buzzwords and trends, leaving many questioning its true purpose.
It's not meant to be a one size fits all approach where one success path is replicated. Time and time again. Instead, it's a collaborative exploration where your journey is the focal point. It's a process of self-discovery achieved through strategic and skilled questioning, active and reflective listening, and a focus on professionally guiding the client where they truly want to go. Coaching is not for everyone.
[00:06:00] The truth is it's just not the right path in every case. A good coach will not enter into a coaching relationship with a client, unless they're confident they can help the client achieve their goals. This is why most coaches have a screening and application or a discovery call process in order to speak with the potential client before booking them into a package. So coaching may not be for you if. You're struggling with mental health concerns are deep trauma that requires healing before you can really focus on taking steps forward towards your goals.
Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device)-2: Coaching may not be for you. If you're seeking someone to tell you exactly what to do. Or do it for you rather than help guide you towards the best path for you. And last coaching may not be for you if you struggle with accountability and aren't willing to take actionable steps towards your ideal future right now. While coaching is such a [00:07:00] powerful tool. It's not for us.
All coaches often provide homework that ranges from asking the client to keep an eye out for a specific observation. To trying a new strategy between sessions. They often ask clients to reflect on what has changed since the last call and what area requires the most focus or top priority on the present call. If clients aren't willing to self-reflect or take action. These strategies would not be nearly as effective as they're capable of clients should not only desire certain outcomes, they should also be ready to work towards them. Key coaching principles. Coaching operates on the principle that the client is ultimately responsible for their own choices.
Proverbs 23 7 reminds us of the power of our thoughts. A great Christian coach will seek to help clients see themselves through God's eyes, offering grace and support. With a heavy focus on mindset, coaching challenges you [00:08:00] to practice and make progress forward rather than chasing perfection. Coaching involves unlocking your true desires. Even those beneath the surface. A great coach may say things no one's ever said to you and the likely believe in you more than you could have expected.
Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device)-3: Again, through strategic questioning and active listening, a coach guides you towards light bulb moments that can change the game for you and your family. Your coach is like a mentor. They truly desire your success and wellbeing, and we'll work very hard to help you achieve it. They will often help you formulate goals, identify and overcome roadblocks.
Then create an act upon a strategy for accomplishing them. The Christian coach approach adds a focus on where you're going and how you'll get there while aligning your path with God's purpose for your life. Now the parenting and family approach. One common misconception about parent coaches is that they're [00:09:00] focused most on training the child.
The truth is the primary focus is on us. As the parents with expert support, parents can work through any obstacles standing between themselves and the parent. They truly desire to be. A quicker, easier. And with fewer roller coaster moments than going at it alone, they can develop and enhance necessary skills to achieve desired outcomes. Align efforts with core values. And implement effective strategies over time. When it comes to your children, you are the expert.
No one knows your family better than you and God. A great parenting and family coach genuinely believes this and will empower and equip you to believe and feel it as well. Whether you're seeking to raise your children differently than you were raised, incorporate faith into your family. Improve your current approach or reactions overcome active struggles within the home or incorporate methods that will propel [00:10:00] you towards the vision you have for your family.
You could likely benefit from a coach to guide and support you through the process. So how much does coaching cost? Well, this very significantly throughout the market. It's important to note that while cost is an important consideration. It's also about the overall value and what you intend to get out of the relationship. Quality of programs, coaches, alignment to your particular needs and experience with your goals.
Very. Programs also vary in length and structure, which can make a cost comparison. Very challenging. Some coaching programs include additional resources, guides training. Or community aspects in addition to the coaching sessions. Cost can also vary based on whether one-to-one private coaching or group coaching is sought. Group coaching is typically far more cost effective, but it's less tailored and personalized.
[00:11:00] For example, covenant collections has a low cost high value group coaching program for Christian parents. That includes three live group sessions per month. Up to four private digital email touchpoints per month, plus access to a training program that promotes peace and confidence in the parenting journey. Uh, private community. A monthly Q and a with a certified coach and two live connection calls within the community per month. For just $27 a month as a VIP member of the common, confident club. 12 week programs. I tend to range anywhere from 500 to 3,500. Private one-to-one sessions are often offered in one hour increments. Meeting weekly bi-weekly or monthly. Anywhere from one to 12 months. These private program costs vary significantly based on client needs and coach programs. Now. You [00:12:00] may be ready to try coaching, but how do you choose a coach? It's important to note that while many formal certification and training programs are available for coaches completing one of these is not actually a requirement to offering a coaching program. If certification of the coach is a priority for you. It would be important to specifically ask the coaches you are considering or read their program offerings carefully. Some coaches offer broad services and other specialized in a specific developmental stage or topic, you can typically get an initial call at a discounted rate or in some cases at no cost in order to determine if you align with the coach's style and approach. It's also important to take your preferences, priorities, and values into consideration. If you are a Christian who wants to ensure your values are honored in the coaching approach. It would be recommended to seek out a Christian coach specifically, [00:13:00] or make sure to ask your coach if they're in alignment with your values, if you want to be able to delve into other areas as well, such as marriage. Work issues, friendships.
There are some coaches who are adaptable and able to offer support in various areas and some who may refer you out to other specialties.
Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device)-4: For an example. My certification is in professional coaching, separate from my certification in youth parenting and family coaching. So I would be an example of a coach who can offer support in most, any areas that a client wants or needs to address. However, if you're seeking to address your marriage or career. Primarily, it would be best to find a coach who primarily focuses in marriage or career.
You'll get the best results from a coach. Who's helped clients in these areas before. And or has personal experience overcoming similar challenges in the target area today, there are [00:14:00] coaches available with expertise in pretty much any given area. But self discovery, personal development and mindset can be expected in nearly any program. Coaching results. Remember that coaching is a journey of progress, not perfection, even if you don't initially see possibilities, a great coach will help open that door for you. Coaching is a collaborative process of self discovery and growth.
And there are many benefits as this process is about navigating your path. Discovering your true desires and making progress in alignment with your goals. Whether you are exploring coaching for personal or family development. Uh, understanding its principles can be a transformative step towards a more fulfilling life. So, if you've been curious about coaching, we hope this information has answered some of your questions and encourage you to step forward.
It may be time to consider your goals, [00:15:00] identify roadblocks, and consider how coaching can guide you. Let's say you've made the decision to hire your own coach. But how can you optimize the experience and get the most out of your program? First realize that time with your coach is valuable and you should always aim to maximize it. You want. Each session to take your journey to the next level. And this requires awareness and intentionality. So I'm going to give you six steps to getting the most out of your coaching experience.
Number one, commit to being open and honest. Take a moment to reflect on your behaviors and approaches to date and ask yourself where you could benefit from improvement or assistance. Number two, adopt a growth mindset. Being open to the possibility and reality of improving and accomplishing your goals is essential to your success in these areas. [00:16:00] Number three. Take your time to reflect on the questions that you're asked.
Each question is chosen to better understand where you are or guide you where you desire to be. Number four, come prepared to your sessions while sessions will be flexible, you should come prepared with one focus area. Where you truly want to go deeper and prove, overcome, or learn more about. You should also have feedback on your experience between sessions. Wherever possible so that your coach knows what is working, what isn't working and what might be beneficial to try next. Number five, look for opportunities. As the time with your coaches, valuable look for opportunities to learn from them and receive their guidance in areas that will have the greatest impact for you. And number six, remain accountable and engaged in the process. Coaching can only work.
If you are willing to grow and take action to get the most out of your [00:17:00] experience, remain focused and committed to the process. If at any time, you'd like to shift the trajectory of your journey, just communicate this with your coach so that they can best support you. Remember that coaching should provide you with the knowledge, support and tools. I needed to make informed personal choices. At the end of the day, the choices are still entirely yours. You will always be the subject matter expert when it comes to your family. And from a Christian standpoint, we know you will benefit most significantly from including God at the center of your family.
Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device)-5: If you find, in addition to this, that you would like to discuss working privately with a certified parenting and family coach that specializes in supporting Christian parents. You can apply to work with me, Katy Bordeaux below I'll put the link in the description and in the show notes.
I hope this episode was valuable for you, and I pray you're walking away with a new insight, perspective, or [00:18:00] idea to implement as you move forward. Remember that God makes everything we truly need available to us. And the life you've prayed for is just waiting for you to take the next step If you enjoy this podcast Please subscribe and leave us a review so that we can continue showing up and reaching families who need this message Until next time take care and stay blessed.
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