4 Simple Mindset Shifts for More Peaceful Parenting
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Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device): [00:00:00] Welcome to modern parenting where overwhelm stress and confusion often run the show. And the desire for a peaceful home can begin to feel like some kind of elusive dream. Kind of like trying to plug something in behind the bed, in the dark frustrating, confusing, and definitely a little unsure if it's going to work, but guess what?
It doesn't have to be that hard. I can't offer you a parenting hack that magically solves everything, but I can offer a clear simplified roadmap to more peaceful parenting. A treasure map, if you will, you're still going to have to follow the path, but it's so much easier with a map right?
Hey friends, it's Katy, host of the Christian Career Mom podcast, founder of Covenant Collections, which is a company on a mission to empower parents to thrive in all things family and life, and [00:01:00] author of soon to be released Christian children's book, Happy Are the People. Whether it's your first time listening or you've been here with us before, the Christian Career Mom exists for the working Christian mamas who desire to live purposely, grow spiritually, and create a harmonious balance between their work, life, faith, and family.
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Microphone (TONOR TC-777 Audio Device): Today. I'm going to share the four simple mindset shifts that you'll need to reach that treasure. And because I understand how skeptical we've become.
And because I had time today, I decided to add research backed and scripture based support to each one of our mindset shifts. [00:02:00] Are you ready to throw chaos out the window once and for all, and create a home environment that your family can truly thrive in. So let's learn four mindset shifts that will help you go from feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and confused. In your homes to an environment of peace. Efficient parent leadership and unbreakable family bonds. Number one embrace progress over perfection.
Let's get real. Y'all we've all been there. The Pinterest perfect expectations that meet the messy reality of parenting. It's not a test. It's not a checklist. And there's certainly no. Perfect scorecard. Parenting is a journey. A wild ride through unchartered territories with no GPS embracing progress over perfection is like just giving yourself permission to take detours, make [00:03:00] wrong turns and still enjoy the scenic route.
That is our real lives. Embracing progress. Means understanding that the bumps in the road aren't failures. They're just part of the adventure. It's okay. To celebrate the messy kitchen after baking cookies. Or the Fort made of pillows that now looks like a collapsing igloo all over your living room. The real life scenarios are where the real growth happens.
They're where the real memories come from. Philippians three verse 12. Not that I have already obtained all this or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took. Hold of me. This one helps with context. Paul is basically speaking of all, the ways, wanting to be more like Christ makes him want to abandon the ways of the world and how as much as he desires this, he's still not there yet.
He's a work in progress. [00:04:00] He says he forgets the past and presses forward towards the goal. The treasurer. Because it's an ongoing journey. There's so much growth, so much beauty and so much to be learned from the progress. Just keep moving forward.
Psychologist Carol Dweck and her insights on the growth mindset, our research support for this. It's not just a buzzword, it's a game changer in how we approach challenges. And yes, that includes parenting challenges, studies in educational psychology, highlight that those who have a growth mindset. I don't see mistakes as roadblocks, but as stepping stones, they don't throw in the towel.
When things get tough, they see effort as a path to reaching their goals. They see failures as learning experiences. So let's apply this mindset to our parenting journey. A growth mindset in parenting means [00:05:00] adaptability, rolling with the chaos. Learning from the mess ups and coming out the other side with resilience lessons learned. And a lot of stories to tell.
Number two. Is prioritizing connection over control. Research leaves nothing to the imagination when it comes to the importance of genuine connections between parents and their children. Dr. John Gottman would be considered a relationship guru. And he teaches that this is all about trust and understanding and resilience.
Can you think of a single time when a power struggle led to a heart, to heart with a genuine connection? But genuine connections are the secret sauce. They're what make every difficult time more manageable. They're what? Get our families through the lows and make the highs higher. We don't really want to be the boss. We want to be the guide, the confidant, the support system, the mentor, [00:06:00] someone they can trust.
We want a strong relationship. Gottman's research also explores emotional intelligence in our kids, strong emotional connections at home. Are the secret sauce to boosting social skills. Improving academic performance and setting your kid up for success with their emotional wellbeing. Proverbs 22 6 reminds us to start children off on the way they should go.
And when they are old, they will not turn from it. Connections built with our children early on are like seeds that we plant. That grow into strong lasting roots that create strong and resilient children for life. Prioritizing strong connections and our families. Isn't just a good idea. It's also following biblical advice to nurture our little humans in a way that shapes their paths for the rest of their lives. So whenever you feel the urge to lean into control, take a deep breath and choose [00:07:00] connection instead. We don't need to be the puppet master.
We need to be the anchor in their storm, the safe Harbor. Prioritize connection and watch as it not only strengthens your parent child bond, but also sets the stage for your child's all around success.
Number three, master the art of prioritization. I'm sure we all have excessive to do lists. But imagine if your day was a blank canvas and you got to paint a masterpiece. You wouldn't include just everything. If you were aiming to create a masterpiece, would you, you would carefully choose an include the things that fit best. That's what priority? That's what prioritization is like. We're not just going to aimlessly, do things.
We're going to align our daily actions with our core values. Sinking our actions to our values helps us create a life of [00:08:00] fulfillment and wellbeing. Rather than just going through the motions day after day. We don't want to be busy just for the sake of being busy. We want to be intentional, purposeful, and aligned with what truly matters.
Most it helps us take steps forward with purpose and direction. Matthew 6 33 says. But seek first, his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well. When we prioritize what truly matters most the rest will fall into place. We can align our actions to our values and create a home environment centered on what is genuinely meaningful. Positive psychology studies show that living in alignment with your values is actually linked to higher levels of life satisfaction. Applying this guidance to parenting creates a family grounded in shared values.
That experiences a true sense of fulfillment and purpose. So as you navigate the [00:09:00] whirlwind of family life, Don't just tackle tasks, create your masterpiece. Master the art of prioritization and watch as your family life shifts from chaos to a purposeful, meaningful journey. It's not just about doing it's about doing what truly matters. And last but not least define a clear vision for your family. It's like. Creating that GPS for your family life. Making any decision big or small without a clear sense of where you're headed or what you're aiming for is asking for trouble. That's the power of a family vision. It points you towards your desired outcomes.
It helps keep the family running smoothly. Rather than just reacting to the chaos around you. You're able to steer through it with purpose because a well-defined vision provides structure and consistency for navigating life. [00:10:00] You don't have to have it all figured out. But you do need to know which direction you want to go before you start making your way there. Proverbs 29 18, where there. is no vision.
The people perish. If we don't take the time to see what God wants to do in our lives and align our vision with his will for our families. We will just basically wander aimlessly. Or we can find and follow that vision and be blessed. That's the importance of having a direction for your family? A defined vision, prevents your family? unit from becoming a ship lost at sea in the challenges of life. Research shows that families with a vision are exhibiting better communication. Resilience and overall satisfaction.
Having a clear family vision is your secret weapon for navigating challenges and making decisions that align with your longterm goals. These four simple mindset [00:11:00] shifts. Drawn from both biblical wisdom and research can pave the way for enduring peace and unbreakable family bonds. Celebrate your progress, prioritize connections, master the art of prioritization. And define a clear vision and may your family journey. Experienced continuous growth, genuine connections, purposeful prioritization, and a clear vision for a fulfilling. And purposeful future. If you want to work together and go so much deeper towards creating calm in your home and confidence within your parenting journey.
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