Day 6 Challenge
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[00:00:00] Imagine tapping into the power to create a happier, more connected family in the easiest and most fun way possible by celebrating your successes in today's training. We're diving into the incredible impact of recognizing and reflecting on your wins as a parent, setting the stage for a more joy filled and purposeful journey in 2024.
We're halfway to our destination, which is parenting, clarity and purpose for 2024 on day six. We're going down memory lane for a bit. We're going to break out the highlight reel and reflect on everything that went well in our previous adventures so that we know what things to hold on to and recreate for our next one, just like you'd treasure the overflowing photo album of amazing moments from from a family trip, we will reflect on the achievements and positive aspects of your parenting [00:01:00] from 2023.
Our goal is to identify the strategies and practices that worked really well for you and just plan to carry them forward. Today, we're just going to focus on the good. Becoming the best parent you possibly can be is certainly not all about identifying and fixing the flaws. There's a lot of things you do right, and sometimes you overlook them.
First, you need a reminder that God chose you to parent this child. Whether you're a mom, Dad, biological parents, step parent, adopted parent, grandparent, foster parent, aunt, uncle, or any other traditional or nontraditional role, if these children are in your care and it's on your heart to parent them well.
God has entrusted them to you. Parenting them is part of your God given journey, and he may have even led you here to hear exactly that. Today, we're not doubting, [00:02:00] questioning, or criticizing ourselves. We're not reflecting on what we can do better. We're embracing the joy of celebrating our wins. We're learning how to identify those winning habits and practices, and we're recognizing each of those habits and practices that we can identify as a benefit to our families so that we can carry that over into 2024 as well.
Your free resource for today is our winning habits checklist. This is a very simple tool to identify which habits and practices lead to better success and bigger wins in your families and in your lives. You can use this resource for a lot of different things. And it's one of my favorites. You can find your copy of this in your email if you're [email protected] slash 2024, or in the Christian Parenting Community Facebook group.
I'm also uploading all of our resources from this challenge into the Common Confident Clubs. So [00:03:00] for those of you who join us there, you'll have every single thing in a. Super easy to access location. Speaking of which, if you want to tap into your most calm and confident self, if you want to find a peace in your family that you've almost forgotten was possible, overcome chaos, embrace calm and create an even more peaceful and efficient home, even while managing a busy schedule so that you can nurture a loving environment where your children and you thrive.
And you can fulfill your God given role as their parent with peace, joy, and confidence, then the Calm and Confident Club membership is going to be perfect for you. It will only be 7 a month, so that as many parents as possible are able to get the support and resources that they need. And doors are opening soon on December 15th.[00:04:00]
If you are tired of feeling like you're on the edge of burning out, feeling buried under your to do list, feeling guilty for not giving your family the very best version of yourself, lacking direction, structure, consistency, and clarity on parenting strategies that will actually work for you long term.
If you're worrying if you're building a strong enough connection with your children, one that will actually stand the test of time. If you want to create peace in your family, so that you can be the best parent you possibly can be, feel confident and clear when you make decisions and feel equipped to navigate all of the conflicts and challenges that we cannot prevent.
Build enduring and strong, lasting bonds with your children. Create a home that's built around peace and trust and love and connection. And just maintain a sense of control and efficiency that would actually prevent [00:05:00] that stress and chaos from returning if any, or if all of those things speak to you, then this membership is perfect for you.
I'm going to be honest. It's not easy work to get to this place. I had to admit that I needed help. I'm a recovering perfectionist. That's not an easy task. I had to accept that I couldn't actually do it all by myself and do it well without making some changes. I had to stop just asking myself, Are you sure you can't just try harder, push harder, and make it work?
Because that's what I was accustomed to. I had to accept that facing the stress and overwhelm of today had to come before strategizing and planning for the future, because I'm also very future focused and I have to intentionally ground myself to the present. And I had to reframe those fears and those excuses that tell you you don't have time for this.
Into the realization that I [00:06:00] can make the time and I will prioritize what matters most to me, but every single piece of that process, no matter how difficult was so worth it. And I will be forever grateful that God pushed me in this direction. So, not only will 12 of our challenge participants win this full membership, which contains 3 full programs, each of which is worth far more than 7 even for 1 of them.
It also comes with a private community for members where you receive coaching support on an ongoing basis, monthly Q and A's live calls for connection and meaningful conversation and new training and new products on a regular basis to continue adding value over time. Those 12 challenge winners are also being auto upgraded to VIP for free for an entire year.
And you still have nine chances to win by participating on the [00:07:00] daily homework posts in the free Facebook group. We have three lovely winners so far who are so excited to get started. I've decided to hold off on releasing the official VIP program at 27 a month and just automatically upgrade every single person who purchases the Common Confident Club at 7 a month through December 15th.
That's a show of gratitude for you participating in this challenge, but it's also to honor you for being founding members. I want to share one more thing and then we'll shift into our day six content. But I wanted to share a little bit about why I've priced it this way, because I know when you compare it to similar products out there, it's very low.
I want to offer low cost, high value opportunities to as many families as I possibly can, because my goal is to make a true kingdom impact through this work. I also know what it's like to purchase something as a busy parent [00:08:00] and then feel like I can't get my money's worth out of it because the live components never work with my schedule.
So I've set up both the membership itself and the VIP benefits so that even if you're only able to take advantage of one of the amazing things available to you, it's still worth your investment to stick around and keep showing up wherever you can. And this limited time bonus where I upgrade you to VIP when you purchase at 7 a month is a bonus that you'll be grandfathered into for the life of the membership as long as you remain in good standing.
So you can stick around for as long as you'd like, getting hundreds of dollars of value each month for only 7. You can head over to CovenantCollections. com slash club to claim that offer before December 15th. And if you're watching this after December 15th, 2023, you'll still have access to get into VIP at 27, which is still a really [00:09:00] great value.
And we would be thrilled to have you. Now, to reflect on your past wins and incorporate them into your action plan involves a very thoughtful and intentional approach. Here are some proven strategies that you can use to simplify that process moving forward and incorporate them as regular practices in 2024.
First is a wins journal. This is something I highly recommend maintaining throughout the entire year. It's just a place where you jot down things that worked really well, things you did, some of the really great feedback that your kids provide during the family feedback sessions, and times that you felt like you really had this whole thing figured out.
And you were just killing it as a parent. We all have those days sometimes, right? Honestly, it's easiest to do this as a note in your phone because most of us have those with us all the time. And it'll be a lot simpler than trying to remember to add [00:10:00] it into your journal later. But I tend to like both.
And I jot the note in my phone as a reminder to then add it to my actual tangible journal. So that's always an option. Let me give you some ideas. If you normally have to negotiate and debate to get your teenager to answer your calls to check in when they're staying at a friend's house. And then at some point this past year, you decided to just try texting first and see if it was a good time, then have them call you back within the next 30 minutes or so, and it went over really well.
That's something to jot down. If we find something that works well, we want to recognize it and remember it so that that can be our go to in the future. If you're always fighting the after school snacks ruining your appetite for dinner battle, but at some point this year, you created a snack drawer of always available snacks the kids are allowed to have anytime they want, but [00:11:00] after school and before dinner, this is the only snacks they're allowed to have.
And you fill it with good choices that you're not worried about ruining dinner, like apples, bananas, carrots, string cheese, yogurts, whatever you want, but things that they do actually like. And it's given them some autonomy, choice, and availability, but it's also eliminated that concern you had. That's a win.
Keep that in mind and document it so that you can maintain it in the future as well. If you always try to talk to your child about their misbehavior while they're still upset, and it always escalates and leaves you both feeling super frustrated, but at some point this year, you tried a different approach.
And you noticed how much smoother those conversations went for your book for you both when you implemented a pause and let everyone regulate and reset before coming back to talk about it, jot that down and plan to continue that practice in the future. You're going to want [00:12:00] to do this every time something goes well so that you can find patterns and recurring successes.
Sometimes things go well just because everyone was in a good mood that day, or at that moment, or because the weather was nice. So you need to look for patterns before you make any very significant shifts. Next, I like the practice of having regular family meetings in general. A lot of these things you can merge into one weekly, bi weekly, monthly, however works best for your family, meetings.
You can do your feedback sessions, your follow ups, and your reflections all together. This is where you'd come together and discuss everyone's positives. Ask everyone what they think went well this past week. Get everyone to provide one specific thing that they felt like was a win. For themselves, for someone else in the household, for the family, just for the [00:13:00] home in general.
Whatever they felt like was the highlight. This will keep everyone in touch with one another, it enhances the bonds, it builds upon your open communication, and it also keeps everyone in positive mindsets that play a big part in overall family morale. You can use this feedback to identify common themes as well.
If you had a cell phone free family dinner at the table this week and someone shares how much they really enjoyed that, you can consider making that a regular routine in your family. Or if you did something really fun and you surprised everyone with a picnic in the park. Real time feedback is nice, but a lot of things will come up after we've had a few days to think about them and realize what a positive experience it was.
You can use your winning habits checklist to jot down whatever specific habit you're tracking, the wins that you experienced as a result, any challenges that came [00:14:00] up that could hinder that habit, and what the solutions to those challenges will be. This type of analysis can shape your future parenting strategies in a very positive way.
You can continue using SMART goals towards almost any practice or habit that you want to reinforce if you find a challenge or an obstacle that's in your way. If you want more of those family dinners but everyone's busy and those sports schedules just kind of make that impossible, well, what's the solution?
What's the goal? Maybe a family breakfast at the table instead. So let's say it is incorporating a weekly family tech free dinner at the table together. Celebrating your wins could look like whatever you want, but some ideas could be surprising everyone with cupcakes. With fun photo props, with sparklers, with a fun plan for the weekend, handwritten [00:15:00] thank you notes, anything to acknowledge everyone for their commitment to show up to this and to do so with a good attitude.
Celebrate your whole family for committing to something and following through. When you do this, you reinforce the positive behavior and make it more likely that everybody continues doing this in the future and doing so happily, which is the goal. Anything that we can connect to our values is going to reinforce that behavior in a very strong way.
Our core values are a driving force behind what we want, what we do, and why. If my win is spending that dedicated, undistracted time together as a family, I could connect that with my core value of connection. If my win is that we started reading family devotionals together once a week, and we've been really committed to that process and making it something the whole family looks forward to, I could connect that to my core value of faith.
That's going to [00:16:00] reinforce the desire and the commitment to carrying this over into the future as well. And it gets us closer to our vision for our family because our vision is driven from those core values as well. Share your wins with other parents, learn from the wins of others, and be open to new ideas that might work for you also.
That's the beautiful thing about surrounding yourself with like minded parents. And if you don't have that in person, you can have that in an online setting. This is what our homework for today will be over in the Christian Parenting Community. Share one parenting win, no matter whether you think it's the same.
simplest thing in the world. It could be a brand new idea that changes someone else's family in a big way. So please do not hesitate to share. Commenting on that post will also be your giveaway entry. And tomorrow I'll be announcing the next three winners in our Facebook group. I've also [00:17:00] added a Q and a post there where you can put any questions that may have come up throughout this challenge.
Any questions about how to tailor something to your specific situation or even any questions regarding the membership opportunity and I'll go live sometime this weekend to answer those questions. I know some of my people are really private, and I can totally relate, okay? So please feel free to post it anonymously in the group or message me privately, and I'll make sure that your question gets included.
The key is to learn from the wins that you've achieved and the challenges that you've faced. And not get too hung up on either. The present and the future are our focus. But there's a lot that can be learned from what's worked and what hasn't worked in the past. Of course, I want to close with biblical support for focusing on the positive.
Philippians 4 8 says, Finally, brothers and sisters, [00:18:00] whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, Think about such things. This is so good. This task may seem silly to you or like something you don't have time for and it won't make that much of a difference to your parenting in 2024, but it will.
Give it a chance. Trust the process and let's focus on going into 2024 full of clarity, confidence and purpose that will help us show up as the best version of ourselves. I'll see you tomorrow for creating our action plan.
