Why You Should Set Goals as a Family
Jan 10, 2025Why You Should Set Goals as a Family
Part 1 of the 3-Part Series: Setting Family Goals
Your family has a unique calling from God. Are you living with intention, or are you just going through the motions?
Most families aren't struggling from a lack of love—they're struggling because they’re unintentional. Today, we’re going to talk about why setting goals as a family can transform your home and bring you closer to God’s plan for your lives.
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Why Should Families Set Goals Together?
If we aren’t actively working toward shared goals as a family, we can slowly drift apart without even realizing it.
Life is busy. Everyone has their own schedule, their own priorities, and it’s easy to focus on what’s right in front of us personally. But over time, that can create an unfortunate distance in our relationships.
Goals are how we stay connected.
They give your family a shared sense of direction and purpose. Instead of feeling like you’re just trying to get through the day, goals create opportunities to work toward something bigger together. And that process of working together builds connection, communication, and trust in ways that day-to-day life just doesn’t.
Think of your family like a company. Everyone has their own individual tasks, interests, and goals—but the company also has shared goals that help guide its overall direction.
If everyone in a business was focused only on their own work without any shared objectives, the company would never move forward as a whole.
The same is true in our families. Each of us has our own lives—kids have school, parents have work and personal interests—but without shared goals to unite us, it’s easy to drift apart without even realizing it.
Family goals aren’t about losing individuality; they’re about creating connection and making sure we’re all growing in the same direction, together.
I don’t want us to ever wake up one day and realize that we’ve been so busy keeping up with our own lives that we’ve missed out on what matters most—our connection with each other.
Think of Your Family as a Team
Would a sports team ever walk onto the field without a game plan? No way. They have a strategy. They know what they’re working toward, and they know each player’s role in achieving that goal.
The same is true for families. Without shared goals, we make it way too easy to drift apart.
But when we take time to come together and set clear goals, it creates alignment and unity. We become intentional about what we’re working toward as a family, and that gives us direction, peace, and purpose.
How Family Goals Brought Peace to My Home
Life can get overwhelming. I know that firsthand.
In 2024, things got chaotic for me in a way that I haven’t felt since 2020 when I was newly separated, had just moved, had just changed jobs, was in too much debt to make ends meet, and going absolutely insane because I had to spend time away from my son who was still breastfeeding in order to make custody work.
Fast-forward to 2024, I’m still a single mom, working full-time, running a business, and pursuing my doctorate. There’s never a moment when I don’t have something on my to-do list. It’s a constant balancing act between my responsibilities at work, school, home, and the business—all while making sure I’m showing up for my son and continuing to nurture my faith.
The second I stop being intentional, I’m just surviving.
If I’m not intentional, I could easily get lost in that endless to-do list and miss out on precious time with my son. And on the flip side, if I had no structure, I’d spend all my time with him and drop the ball on the other responsibilities I’ve also been called to steward in this season.
The moment last year that made me realize something had to change was when I saw the ripple effect of my scattered schedule. Work would keep me up too late, which would keep my son up too late, which made mornings a disaster. I’d struggle to get to work on time, and if he had a tough day at school for any reason, I’d feel responsible for not setting us up for success.
And yet, I’d be so drained that I wouldn’t have the energy to stay on top of things and prevent that cycle from repeating.
I will say, it never take me long to learn a lesson and take action, so that’s when I decided that I had to make some serious changes.
I realized that if I wanted our home to feel more peaceful and connected, I couldn’t just hope it would happen. I had to set goals that would align my time and energy with what mattered most to us as a family.
What Setting Family Goals Looks Like in Our Home
Here’s what that looked like for me:
I started getting up two hours earlier so I could take care of my time with God, make breakfast, work out, and get ready for work—all before my son woke up.
That way, when he woke up, I could be fully present and engaged. We start our mornings on a light, relaxed note, which sets the tone for the whole day. We’re out the door on time, in great moods, feeling on top of things. It makes a world of difference.
I also set evening goals to help manage my time better. I prioritized getting those “must-do” tasks done before they piled up and cut into the time we needed for other important areas. And I made sure we both cut off screens an hour before bedtime so we could wind down and spend that time together.
But my favorite part? Involving my son in our shared family goals.
Every day, we each do something physical, something mental, something spiritual, and something helpful.
We share goals around prioritizing our health (physical), committing to personal growth (mental), keeping God first (spiritual), and being a light to others (helpful).
We often go about them in different ways—I work out separately from him, I read different books, and I do my Bible time before he wakes up. Our acts of kindness are often different too. Obviously, he's 5, so his books are a completely different vibe from my personal growth preference, and his 'workouts' look more like 'recess'.
But we’re on the same path, heading in the same direction, valuing the same things that God has called us to as a family.
We inspire each other. We hold each other accountable. And we keep each other encouraged when it gets hard.
That’s the beauty of family goals. They create a shared vision, one that aligns your hearts and your time with what truly matters.
How to Go From Overwhelmed to Intentional
Now, I know what you might be thinking—this sounds great, Katy, but how do I actually make it happen?
I know how hard it is to juggle everything life throws at you. You carry so much responsibility, and it’s easy to feel like you’re just trying to get through the day.
If you’ve ever felt that way—or like you’re not showing up as the calm, present parent you want to be—I want to invite you to join The Calm & Confident Club.
This is my monthly membership that teaches you how to go from feeling chaotic and overwhelmed to calm, confident, and intentional in your parenting.
The heart of the club is the CALM Method—a simple, biblically-based framework to help you feel more grounded, connected, and clear on your priorities as a parent.
And because I want to start this year off strong, I’m offering a special bonus for this month only:
🎉 When you join The Calm & Confident Club this month for just $7, you’ll also get my Leadership-Inspired Parenting Program—absolutely FREE.
This program helps you recognize and leverage your unique leadership style as a parent to create a home that works for your family. You'll learn how to set shared family goals, how to motivate your kids in ways that resonate with who they are, and how to lead your family in a way that stems from a deep understanding of who they are, who you are, and what works best for you.
It’s about embracing your God-given strengths and learning how to apply them to create peace, purpose, and joy in your home.
👉 In the month of January, head to https://www.covenantcollections.com/c3-specialoffer-jan to join us inside. I would love to see you there! Let’s make this the year your family grows closer than ever.
Biblical Foundations: God’s Design for Family Unity
Let’s bring this back to scripture.
Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
When we don’t have a vision, we wander aimlessly. But when we know what we’re working toward, we have purpose.
God calls families to live with intention and purpose. Setting goals isn’t just a productivity hack—it’s a way to align your home with God’s calling for your family.
Next Steps: What’s Coming in Part 2
Next week, we’ll dive into how to set goals as a family.
We’ll cover:
✅ How to hold a family goal-setting meeting.
✅ How to get your kids excited about the process.
✅ How to create meaningful, achievable goals.
Stay tuned, friends. Let’s raise faithful families together. 💛
Author
Katy Bordeaux is a Certified Parenting & Family Coach and the founder of both Covenant Collections and Kingdom Purpose Moms. Passionate about guiding families to thrive, Katy combines biblical wisdom with practical parenting strategies to help parents build strong, faith-filled homes. Connect with her for more resources and support on your parenting journey.
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